Why Most Relationships Fail (And How to Do Better)

Let’s be honest—love looks sweet on Instagram, but behind closed doors, some of y’all are fighting over who left the toothpaste open. Relationships crash and burn not because “love is dead” but because people are lazy, selfish, or just plain delusional about what it takes to make things work.

So let’s drag the truth out in the open.

1. Communication is TRASH

Most of you don’t actually talk—you just wait for your turn to clap back. Instead of listening, you’re busy cooking up comebacks like it’s a rap battle. Then you wonder why your “love of my life” turns into “enemy of progress.”

Savage Fix: Shut up and listen sometimes. Communication isn’t just talking—it’s understanding.

2. Social Media Overload

Some relationships don’t fail because of cheating; they fail because one person is in a relationship with Instagram more than with their partner. Every fight ends up as a subliminal post, every smile becomes “content.”

Savage Fix: Your love life is not a Netflix series—stop broadcasting everything. Protect your peace, not your followers’ entertainment.

3. Zero Effort Energy

Love isn’t just “good morning, have you eaten?” texts. It’s about consistency. Some people chase you like their life depends on it, then once they have you—BOOM—they get too comfortable and stop trying. Sis, you didn’t sign up to be ignored.

Savage Fix: Effort shouldn’t expire. Keep the same energy you used to get them if you want to keep them.

4. Living in Fantasy Land

Too many people expect their partner to be their lover, therapist, provider, best friend, chef, and prayer warrior all at once. Relax. Your partner is human, not an iPhone with multiple functions.

Savage Fix: Manage your expectations. Nobody is your all-in-one survival kit. Learn to give as much as you demand.

5. Lack of Self-Work

Here’s the harsh truth: Some of you don’t need a relationship, you need therapy. You carry unhealed trauma, daddy/mummy issues, and insecurities, then dump them on your partner like it’s their fault.

Savage Fix: Work on yourself before you try to build with someone else. A broken foundation can’t hold a mansion.

So, How Do You Do Better?

Communicate clearly, not clumsily.
Keep your love life off the TL.
Match energy with energy—don’t slack.
Stop expecting fairy tales.
Heal yourself before loving someone else.

At the end of the day, relationships don’t fail because “love is dead.” They fail because people don’t know how to show up. Love is action, not just feelings.

So if you’re tired of relationship fails, here’s the savage truth: stop repeating the same trash behavior and expecting a happy ending.